What is the process to become a surrogate mother?
If you are interested in growing your family through surrogacy or giving the endearing gift of parenthood by being a surrogate, this post details important information.
Every state in the USA abides by different surrogacy laws; therefore, every scenario can alter depending on various factors.
This is an exciting and life altering commitment! Please rest assured that we are here to answer any questions you have.
Is surrogacy the right route?
Being a surrogate and becoming an intended parent through surrogacy is certainly a beautiful and meaningful journey, but a commitment in many aspects.
Please do research and see which path is best for you.
Have your questions answered. It is key to feel comfortable and confident before embarking on this journey.
Narrow down your goals and needs
First, what type of Surrogacy? There are 2 types:
Traditional - Traditional Surrogates are also the biological mother of the child she carries. Her egg is fertilized using sperm from the intended father or a donor.
Gestational – Gestational Surrogates are not biologically related to the baby they are carrying. The embryo is instead created using an egg from the intended mother or egg donor and sperm from the intended father or a sperm donor.
Secondly, should I go through an Agency or Independent?
Surrogacy Agency – Provides services such as: matching with Surrogacy/Intended Parents, various screenings, case management, legal, and support.
Surrogacy Attorney – Whether you decide to go through an agency or independent, Surrogacy Attorneys are almost always required as they prepare the legal contract, honoring both Surrogates and Intended Parents.
You might be interested in what intended parents look for in a surrogate.
Once a surrogate and intended parents have decided to move forward, the surrogate will go through a psychological evaluation and medical screening. Once medically cleared, the surrogacy contract is drafted by the attorney who represent the intended parents and submitted for review by the surrogate's attorney.
The legal contract will establish details such as: compensation, relinquishing rights of the baby upon delivery to the Intended Parents, etc.
Please review the legal contract carefully before signing. If you have any questions/concerns, please bring them up to your attorney.
After surrogacy contract: embryo transfer and pregnancy
Surrogates will start the process of preparing for embryo transfer by taking medications and injections. These will help prepare her body with a kick start of hormones to mimic that she is pregnant, to better suit her uterus for the embryo transfer to stick.
After the embryo transfer and once fetal heartbeat is confirmed, the surrogate will go to routine OBGYN prenatal care appointments to ensure the healthy growth of the baby.
Every surrogate and intended parent relationship is different, some tight knit while others prefer more distantly cordial. However, it is normal for surrogates to share weekly updates with pictures of her progress.
Delivery - Welcome, little one!
Once the surrogate is in labor, she will normally be occupied by her support person: whether it is her case manager, spouse, and/or intended parents.
It is indeed a very exciting time and all parties involved would love to support and be there during this special time.
Once the baby is born, the Intended Parents will happily welcome this new addition to their family.
After the delivery
Some surrogates do participate in breast feeding for the baby they carried (compensated). This is not required in all cases and each intended parent will have different requests. Please, feel free to collaborate with one another to determine which is best.
Furthermore, just as the journey during pregnancy is unique to every case, so to will the parting of ways post-delivery. Sometimes intended parents invite their surrogates to the child’s birthday parties, while others choose a more gradual and natural close of that chapter where both parties do not keep in touch.
If you are interested in starting this process of becoming a surrogate or intended parent, we encourage you to reach out to us and let us show you why we deserve to be on your team.