What do intended parents look for in a surrogate mother?

Posted on May 26, 2020 by Giving Tree Surrogacy & Egg Donation

When intended parents are looking for a surrogate, they take several areas into consideration when finding the ideal surrogate. The qualities of a good surrogate candidate is, her loyalty and commitment to surrogacy. Her past and present physical/mental health. Her ability to carry a child (this is where prior medical records come into play). A surrogate must be able to pass a psychological evaluation followed by a medical screening. In addition to these qualities, there are others that make a good surrogate, we will discuss these below.

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In order to become a surrogate with Giving Tree Surrogacy & Egg Donation, the surrogate must be at least 21 years old. Surrogacy can be a complicated and long process that comes with risks that we want the prospective surrogate to be prepared for the challenges that may lie ahead. Most of these can be influenced by her maturity and age. Age requirements are set to help ensure the safety of both parties. Becoming a surrogate at an older age opens you up to possible complications with pregnancy and childbirth. Therefore, the cut off age limit is 35. Reproductive endocrinologists set certain age restrictions for this reasoning, and to protect the health of the surrogate and the baby.

Prior pregnancies and deliveries

One of the most important requirements for becoming a surrogate is to have had one or more successful pregnancies. This means live births with no complications and that she is raising her own child. It’s important that a woman has a healthy pregnancy and delivery history and she already has her own family. This helps with knowing she has the understanding for the journey she is about to embark on.

BMI and drug use

Two other qualities are: the surrogate herself can't be a smoker or have any drug use. This also includes certain medication for mental illness on a regular basis (e.g. medication for depression). Next, is the surrogate’s BMI. Generally, the ideal BMI is within the range between 18-30. This is to help ensure the selected surrogate is healthy enough for the process of IVF.

Past and present physical/mental health

Becoming a surrogate is a long, yet rewarding process that must be taken seriously. Every surrogate should complete and pass a psychological screening. Each surrogate and spouse, if any, is assessed for emotional and psychological stability to take on the commitment of carrying someone else’s child. The psychological screening assesses the surrogate’s capability of taking on the responsibility and handling the effects of medications needed during the surrogacy journey, that will help prepare the uterine to carry the planned pregnancy.

This entire process ensures that only the most emotionally and physically qualified surrogates participate in the journey of surrogacy. The medication can alter the emotions of a Surrogate, so it is crucial that the surrogate is stable and has a great support system.

A quick answer to your question is A woman between 21-35 with at least one healthy prior pregnancy. Her BMI is under 33 and a woman who is physically and mentally stable. Lastly, a woman who has a great support system, Surrogacy is not only time consuming but can also be physically and mentally consuming.

Also check out what factors disqualify you from becoming a surrogate.